As I was writing the prior post, I realized that dreams live on.
My fiancee and I shared a goal. She would finish medical school and the residency programs while I finished my MSEE degree.
I had a job offer to work for a defense contracting company (making missile guidance systems) that paid *VERY* well and had the benefit of paying for the tuition for my MSEE degree. The company I would have worked for only wanted two years on the job for each year of paid tuition. So, for two years of tuition, I only had to be there for four years, which was the length of medical school. I was honest with the company about moving on after about four years and they were okay with it.
The salary, and living very frugally, would have made it possible for her to finish medical school and me to finish up my master’s degree with no student loan debt. And, with no student loan debt, a medical doctor and an engineer would have no financial issues, no matter the place they chose to live.
The dream was to move to a rural part of northern Arizona, eastern Arizona, southern Utah, southern Colorado or anywhere in New Mexico. My fiancée would have a pediatric practice while I worked for a rural telephone company, a local electric utility company or a government agency.
She died in late 1983 and that dream ended.
It turns out the woman I married had similar dreams. Similar, but not exact. Like me, she is also an engineer and also had dreams of living in a very rural area. I’m not sure if I “picked” her because of the similar dream, or if my dream “infected” her. I guess it doesn’t matter.
Unfortunately, jobs in her field of engineering were available in only a few areas of the country, none being rural, so the dream had to be put on hold until we retired.
When we retired, the dream was rekindled and if everything falls into place, we will be living our dream.